Happy Lunch

This is an update on how my lunch mentor sessions with “Mary” are going.

Today was by far a really good day, if not the most talkative and open lunch we’ve ever had.  It started off kind of slow but really took off after we talked about her cheerleading.  She told me how they got first place over the weekend and if they win regionals they get to go to Disney World!  Isn’t that awesome?!  I told her how proud I was of her.  She says she’s doing great in class and is getting high grades, which was not the case last year.   We then talked about halloween and costumes and soon after that I barely spoke.  Mary took off in the conversation and she opened up so much about her family and her home life.

When I learned about the area in which she lives, my heart sank a little, she lives in an area of town known for it’s gang violence.  I will be praying for her much more specifically now.  I had no idea.  I learned so many other things about her and now I know what her favorite halloween candy is and am planning on bringing it to our next lunch!  I am so glad to see her opening up, she’s grown so much since last year.  The teacher even tells me her behavior and grades have improved just because of our lunches.

I can’t wait to see where her feet take her in life!  I hope to stay in contact with her even past her elementary school days.

Her favorite halloween candy

Her favorite halloween candy

Jesus says don’t be jelly

Here are some notes on releasing yourself from being jealous and/or envious.  Wade Morris was a guest speaker at Overflow, Port City Community Church’s college ministry, and it was an awesomely convicting service.

1. Realize  you’re not God

– God is in control – you are not.

2. Realize you need God

– Come to terms that you really cannot run your life on your own; you’re still not in control.

3. Trust God

– Trust that God knows exactly what you need in life.  Also, trust that God is with you through sorrows and joys.

4. Delight in God.  

–  Sit down, set aside time to be quiet and talk to God (write in a journal, pray, etc.)  Sometimes the quietest moments is when He speaks the loudest.

5. Commit your life to God 

–  It’s one thing to talk the Christian talk but it’s another when you actually walk the Christian walk.

 

This bible passage was given to go along with these notes during the service:

Psalm 37: 1-9 :

1 Fret not yourself because of evildoers;
be not envious of wrongdoers!
2 For they will soon fade like the grass
and wither like the green herb.
 
3 Trust in the Lord, and do good;
dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness.
4 Delight yourself in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.
 
5 Commit your way to the Lord;
trust in him, and he will act.
6 He will bring forth your righteousness as the light,
and your justice as the noonday.
 
7 Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him;
fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way,
over the man who carries out evil devices!
 
8 Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath!
Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.
9 For the evildoers shall be cut off,
but those who wait for the Lord shall inherit the land.
Two closing notes to tie it all up:
  • Envy & Jealousy come from not being completely satisfied with what God has provided for you.
  • Stop worrying about something that is going to come to pass anyway.

Unwanted Mentor

I have been involved in a mentor program at my church, Port City Community Church, for about a year now.  We are given a child that may have some issues with social skills or not enough attention at home.  I have lunch once a week with a little girl and for the sake of privacy, whenever I blog about our lunches, I am keeping all information scrambled (different names, school name, days, etc.)  It’s a great way to serve outside the church without having to go to a third world country.  I mentored, let’s call her Mary, last school year and I’ve requested to mentor her again this year; I’ll probably stay with her until she leaves elementary school.

Last year was difficult, we barely spoke each time we had lunch, I felt like she didn’t want me there.  Mary was most likely thinking “Why is she here?” So, I pushed through and carried on, acting like she did want me there and not caring about the eye rolls or the longing looks back at her friends.  Anyway, the school year ended, I gave her fun stationary and stamps so we could write back and forth over the summer but she never wrote.

When the new school year began I signed up to be her mentor again (instead of requesting a different child.)  I was dreading starting our lunches again.  Imagine, having lunch with someone (for a year) you want to pour your heart into and help and they don’t even care that you’re spending time with them.  I was praying all summer for God to watch over her and bring Joy into her life, and I was praying even more for something to talk about during our lunches and that my presence was helping somehow.

So, I showed up and as she saw me she ran to me and hugged me.  I thought “this is what it’s about,” the long run, not the short term results, but what happens over time.  Over our first lunch of the year she talked the whole time about what she did over the summer and that her mom didn’t think the Disney stamps I gave her were real and threw them out.  My heart was relieved that there was another reason for not writing, not because she simply didn’t like me.

Our conversations still hit some road blocks sometimes and I’ll have to bring her attention back to me or purposely start a conversation about nothing to keep her focused.  Even though I stress about keeping a conversation going, each lunch always works out and I leave feeling like I helped in some small way.